I was in the garage vacuuming out the van (yes I drive a minivan…sigh…) when my nine year old, walks in with tears streaming down his face.
I ask him “What’s wrong?”
He says “I didn’t know he could have the bunny marshmallows.”
As soon as the words were out of his mouth I understood. I wrapped my arms around him and just held him as he cried, as we both cried.
Earlier that day I had purchased bunny shaped marshmallows, for the first time. Our son with allergies was so excited to try them. I opened the bag in the van so we could both have some. When we came home I put the opened bag up on the kitchen counter. The bag was still there when we came home from picking our oldest up at school.
While I was in the garage, my son with allergies stretched his arms up onto the counter and had eaten a marshmallow from the bag. Our oldest son was at school when I purchased them and didn’t realize that they were allergy free and instantly started yelling at his brother to spit it out. (This breaks my heart and makes me proud all at the same time.)
I didn’t have to ask my oldest son to know what thoughts were running through his head. He had been there every time his brother had a severe reaction. He had seen what it did and he was scared. I completely understand these feelings because I too share the same ones, we all do. As a mother, you never want to see your children in pain, physical or emotional. This is just one story about how food allergies affect us all emotionally.
It also made me think about how much I focus on the emotional well being of my son with allergies but not as much about my son without allergies. Allergies really does affect us all. What are some ways you care for your children without allergies? Do you find that they too are affected by food allergies?